We Cannot Defeat Darkness with Darkness

Listen, I’m no expert at this life thing. I’m not. I’m not claiming any superpowers when it comes to understanding and diminishing the shadow inside of me. I’m just as flawed and wrecked as the next person. But, I can tell you one thing that I’ve learned:
We can not defeat darkness with darkness.

We can certainly fight darkness with darkness. We do that all of the time. We’re seeing lots of evidence of fighting darkness these days. We’re in a monumental battle on earth right now. Actually, many battles are taking place. Of course, I’m referring to the recent (horrifying and heartbreaking) terrorist attacks in Paris, Beirut, and other places, but also the more personal wars we’re waging in our communities, families, and bodies. The (ever-futile) war on drugs comes to mind. The war on disease is another example.

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Yes, mankind has always waged epic fights with darkness. We’ve written books, penned plays, and produced songs about our struggles. We glorify negativity when we feel it’s justified. We vilify evil behaviors on the part of others, but honor those same debased behaviors on the part of ourselves when it suits our particular viewpoint, religion, beliefs. But, the threats to humankind always remain. Every single threat to us remains despite our best efforts. Why? Well, I’ll tell ya: It’s due to our very consciousness. It’s due to where we place our focus as electromagnetic beings. it’s due to the fact that we create our realities in every detail. More on all of this in a minute.

Humans largely believe that to defeat darkness of any kind: terrorism, cancer, drug addiction, violence, war, greed, differing opinions, and so on, we must physically destroy the threat. We must eradicate all traces of the threat or at least, control the threat. But, the problem with this approach is it’s IMPOSSIBLE to destroy something without becoming the very thing that you are seeking to destroy. The act of thinking about and then destroying the threat makes more threat. It’s about where we place our attention.

The thoughts associated with war perpetuate war. The thoughts tied to “I hate cancer” make more cancer or other illness. It’s true. What we emanate brings more of that energy into the world and right back into our personal sphere, our bodies, our day-to-day existence. By design. It’s physics. What we push against always steps closer to us and oftentimes has aligned with other like energies in its travels back to us and comes back in bigger. Every.Single.Time. It’s because of our consciousness and where we place our attention. Don’t believe it?  This video provides a great grounding in quantum physics and helps explain how our consciousness creates reality.

The defeat of darkness cannot come from sanctions, confinement, condemnation, declarations of war, exclusion, terror, bloodshed, threats, or bombs. We cannot bomb the way out of our human condition, bad feelings, loss of control, or the scary (subconscious) shadow that lies at the core of each of us. We cannot completely kill or stop the darkness in the world, because it’s inside of us. The darkness (threat) is inside of our psyches, our minds, our human consciousness, our behaviors, our thoughts. We contain the very threat that we seek to destroy. In.Every.Case. 

You think the terrorists are bad, evil, wrong, bestial, or fill in the blank? They are human. They are all of us. We are all of them. Don’t believe it? In your life, have you ever been cruel to a child, a friend, a lover, your body? Yes, you have. Have you ever hurt another person? Yes, you have. Maybe you’ve even thought that bombing the sh*t out of the Middle East will “fix the problem”. Yes, many have. I even said something to that effect in a particularly vulnerable and anger-fueled (aka, fearful) moment. No, I’m not proud of it, but I did say it.

Well, news flash: that is a living example of the darkness, the darkness of fear. I’m afraid. We are afraid. We’re afraid that others have power over us. We’re afraid that other people can disrupt our lives, steal our precious iPads and iPhones, take our cars, our money, our women, and hurt our children. We believe these things and we argue for these beliefs because we see evidence of them in the world. We see the news reports. We see the killings, evil, and negativity all over the place. I’m not saying that these atrocities don’t exist in the world. They do. BUT, WE CREATE THEM FIRST IN THOUGHT and then we maintain them out of ignorance, lack of responsibility, and blame. We make these things bigger by believing that we are victims. It’s not true, but we believe it. We believe that we can’t control these things and because we each create reality, we then manifest more of these things in our personal experiences without realizing that we are maintaining these “negatives” and, in fact, making them bigger through our awareness of them.

We often make decisions from a place of fear. We steep in our fear. We justify our fear. We eat our fear. We run from our fear and then when we can’t run any more, we turn and blame other people (or circumstances) for the way we feel and the quality of our lives. We’re afraid. And, human beings who are afraid are dangerous. All of us. Welcome to the darkness, humanity. The darkness is inside of us and we’re largely running from our responsibility for creating darkness.

Listen, I get that there are lots of people in the world who want to “kill Americans”. I get the threat. I do. BUT, what I’m trying to convey is that the threat isn’t “out there”, it’s inside of you and me; it’s inside the house, inside the body, inside the psyche. It’s not external to you or me. The external is merely a very visible and compelling manifestation of the internal state of being, and in every single case. What you see in the world, you posses inside of you and that’s where the work lies for us.

If violence bothers you, it’s because there is violence inside of you and you feel afraid of it. You feel like you can’t control it. Work there. That’s your work. If poverty bothers you, it is inside of you. You believe in poverty and think that others can take stuff from you. You might think that other people with more means ought to pay for you, take care of you, help you. It’s not true. You are responsible for your life in every detail. You are responsible for your conditions, not other people. You are not a victim of others no matter how vehemently you believe it or argue for that viewpoint. It’s not true. YOU are responsible for your life, the happenings, the thoughts, the feelings, the circumstances, the quality, the behaviors. YOU. What you perceive in the world is your own creation. It’s physics. It’s proven. Dig around. There is proof available. Find it.

If you were not a vibratory match for ___________________________ (fill in the blank), you wouldn’t even notice it in the world. Does it mean that a particular evil or negative doesn’t exist? No, it exists for the people who align with it, but it doesn’t have to be that way for you. You can evolve. You can do the work. You can grow past the need for any particular negative manifestation. You are the pilot of your life in every single moment, in every single thought, and down to the tiniest detail. You can own this truth and change your conditions no matter what they are. You can fix it.  You can turn your mind toward that which pleases you instead of looking at that which displeases you and you can tune your physical vibration to align with health, happiness, wealth, love, and joy. We all can.

Did you know that there are some people on the planet who cannot see the violence on earth because they are not aligned with the vibration of violence? Not kidding you. There are people on the planet who have so elevated their energy stream that they cannot perceive or experience disease or lack or strife with others. We’ve had so many fine examples of this throughout history. Mother Theresa was famously quoted as saying: “I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.” She got it. She understood that conditions are a result of attention, thought, and awareness. She celebrated peace, not war. She tuned her vibration into what she wanted, a positive, not a negative.

If you have an anti-war rally, to what are you you paying attention? War. Violence. Bloodshed. Harm. Hurt. If you have a war on drugs, to what are you paying attention? Lack, harm, addiction, pestilence, bodily damage, and so on. If you have a peace rally, on the other hand, you are looking at peace, the light, man’s potential for greater positivity and happiness. You are looking at the good, not that bad. If you celebrate utter health and well-being and keep your mind largely on that, the negative that you see in the world, diminishes. You don’t notice it as much. You are no longer a match for its vibration. Period. It takes work. It takes honesty and courage and willingness to be responsible. It’s not easy, but it is very possible to do this work. Many have and many do.

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Am I advocating that we all sit around in a circle braiding each other’s hair and singing Kumbaya? No, I’m not. But, I am advocating for man- and woman-kind to do more inner work. It’s really time for us to go inside and learn about ourselves. It would be a very good thing for us to get to the bottom of our thoughts and feelings, hold and honor our wounding, walk toward the pain instead of hiding it or running from it; it’s time for us to understand our role in creation, take ownership for our emanations, and heal. This is our work. We agreed to this work by coming back here and living again.

It’s not up to other people to change so that we feel better. It’s up to us to change ourselves so that we feel better (despite the world and external conditions). This is all an inside job. It’s time for us to grow up and value both the hard and happy lessons coming to and through us. It’s time to take responsibility for our darkness so we can diminish it and take our place in the light.

We CAN largely diminish darkness by standing in the light, living in the light, letting the light prevail inside of our own journey. You can only do that through recognizing and healing your wounds and consistently choosing honesty, responsibility, truth, and love.

Some ideas that might help:

  • Accept that your feelings are always right.
  • Accept that your feelings always lead back to thoughts that you’ve been thinking.
  • Identify your feelings.
    • This is anger. This is sorrow. This is relief. This is frustration. This is guilt, shame, happiness, etc. I feel these things. These are my feeling based on the thoughts I’ve been thinking. I accept my feelings.
    • Feelings (and their associated thoughts) are always based on our experiences, our beliefs, our stories. They are indicators of thoughts and thoughts are not always true.
    • Know that when you’re having feelings, you are being given a chance to identify the thoughts that you’ve been thinking and you have an opportunity to question if the thoughts are true.
  • Accept that you create your thoughts.
  • Identify the thoughts you are having and their associated feelings, and then question the hell out of those thoughts.
    • Why am I thinking this? From where does this thought come?
    • Is this thought true or is it a story that I have practiced based on past experience and beliefs?
    • Is this thought serving me to maintain? Can I change it?
    • What is the feeling associated with this thought? How does it feel when I simply sit here and hold the feelings?
  • Question as many of your thoughts as possible, especially when paired with strong feelings because usually, that points to a “story” you have adopted, which is not necessarily reality.
  • Accept that no one else makes you think or feel anything. Your thoughts and feelings are a choice. Always. Without exception. They are your creations and you are responsible for all of them and the conditions that result as a result of them. In every case. In every way.
  • Accept that you are responsible for your life in every detail.
  • Remind yourself often of what is working in the world, in your life, in your body, in your experience. This brings more of those things toward you and it brings you to gratitude. The more you can live in gratitude, the better your life will be.
  • Think about things you very much want and concentrate on those things, not on the lack of them or the fact that they haven’t shown up yet in your experience.

The more we work on our inner stuff, the stuff we actually can control, the better our lives get. Let’s work on revealing the darkness within, working with it, healing it, and then choosing otherwise so we can step into the light of healing. Defeating darkness in the world can only come by largely defeating it inside of ourselves first. Well, we won’t likely ever fully defeat darkness because it teaches us and we learn gobs from it and we agree to come back and experience it, but we can greatly improve our lives by doing inner work, taking ownership of our creations, and standing courageously inside of our own healing process as much as possible. It’s time. Join us.

21 thoughts on “We Cannot Defeat Darkness with Darkness

  1. newheavenonearth

    Jesus said, “I am the light of the world” Jesus also said, “You are the light of the world” Jesus came as the True Light to enlighten every human being. We are to arise and shine for our Light has come (was, IS, and is to come), and his glory will rise upon us if we let it! Even in the darkest times, his true light shines in and through us when we abide in him. Let us unite in God’s Holy Spirit in a bond of peace; arise and shine!!!! There is no world peace; there is peace within us with his Light shining in us! I heard this on my way to an appointment yesterday, “It is not the presence of darkness that is the problem, it is the absence of light” Jesus is the true light that has many, many counterfeits; only the REAL THING will do! Merry Christmas to all!!!

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective, sister. I do appreciate any teaching that focuses on the light. Jesus is one of many examples, across the eons, of helping mankind to live in the light. I greatly respect his contribution and impact on humankind’s evolution. 🙂

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Internalbais, Thank you so much for stopping by and giving a read, sis. You get it completely. It’s nice to know my “people” are out there, honey. 🙂

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Hello, Triciahelie! Thank you very much for coming over, giving a read, and posting your thoughts here, sister. I appreciate you very much. Glad this post speaks to you. Hugs, Lizzy

      1. BigLizzy Post author

        Right back atcha, babe. Seriously. So many blessings are coming your way, sister. Can’t ya just feel ’em, Tricia? 🙂

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Susan-babe, Awww…thank you, sweetie. You get all of this and further, you live it. What a glorious teacher you are to this realm and time, honey. Thanks for coming over and giving some energy, sis. I love you bunches.

  2. Yoga Moods (Jen)

    This made me laugh out loud: “Am I advocating that we all sit around in a circle braiding each other’s hair and singing Kumbaya?” Love you and your thoughts and words, Lizzy. It is all true. Focus on the light, be the light, and you will live in the light. No one can take that away from you except yourself! The last two years I created a private blog where every day I wrote about something for which I was grateful. I quickly started to live more aligned with the things I wanted. I was able to make great progress. I put myself into some very challenging situations this year [and forgot to always be grateful] and at times ended up WAY deep back in the fear and darkness. The fear and darkness I grew up with and which my parents continue to live in. I don’t blame them – or at least I’m trying not to – but it’s amazing how negative their messages to me always are, still. Sometimes it’s hard to distance myself from that and still remain in contact with those I love so much. Falling into this darkness this year, physical illness ensued. Depression. Pain. Fear. Seeing the dismal events in the world as reported on the news. I just had to shut it off. No more news. No more fear. No more feeding into other people’s negative energy. I take responsibility for my life and my thoughts, words, and actions. It is a work-in-progress and takes effort every day! I am so grateful for your HUGE light, Lizzy. Your presence truly shines in my life and your encouragement in this inner work is so helpful. Thank You, sister. Peace.

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Jen!! Hi, love, how are you, sweetie? How is South America? How are your (face it, they’re awesome) yoga retreats going? How is your man-muffin doing?

      I LOVE the idea of a private blog where you focus on what you appreciate! THAT IS AWESOME, mommy. OMG, I love it, love it and I think I’ll start doing a daily list in my journal. Such a GREAT IDEA!

      Isn’t it amazing how when we start to shift our focus routinely toward that which we appreciate or like or want more of, our whole reality shifts? It happens pretty darn fast on some things and seems like it’s glacially slow progress on others, but, like you, I see positive changes, pretty-much right away in certain areas of my life. It’s just really cool knowing we control the cadence, the quality, the “essence” of our experience on earth through our focus.

      You totally get it, babe. What an awesome light you are on this earth, honey. I adore you, your energy, your emanations. I can feel them all the way over here. You Goddess! And, I’m right there with you: I watch no more news. I read no more newspapers. None of that material is at all relevant to me or my happiness. In fact, it detracts from my happiness so much that it isn’t worth it. so, buh-bye to that crap. 🙂

      Hooray! We both know how to do this. I love that we’re here on planet together and doing it, sista! Big, gooey, smoochy hugs and kisses to you, darling. So glad you are well and feeling better now. XOXO

      1. Yoga Moods

        Oh Lizzy… Well, I fell into the darkness living in extreme isolation trying to create a healing sanctuary! Ha! Opposite. The two of us did finish building the house, a bamboo temazcal (traditional Mexican sweatlodge) and greenhouse, planted, harvested, made lots of delicious foods, had some camping guests and even guided some overnight jungle hikes. Turns out we couldn’t do what we wanted to do there, though. It wasn’t a healing place. It was more of an extreme camping with the venomous snakes, scorpions, and jaguars kind of place. The owners who said they’d be there 3-4x a week building community with us never showed up to help in six months. Major storms caused landslides so we couldn’t drive up the road anymore. Long story short we got it ready for the owner to send guides up there with very adventurous hikers & campers but had to abandon our original plans and move away. Living that way was unhealthy and it was an extremely humbling experience. How to stay positive and in the light while also telling the truth? I accessed my darkest places this year but I learned A LOT. Deep spiritual and everyday life lessons for all that money and hard work. So now yes, I’m still in central America, teaching yoga by the beach and trying to regroup. Working online. This being human thing is a very interesting experience. I find I still am always looking for something more … when really, I always had everything I need. Ironic isn’t it? This is why I do yoga. 🙂 Thanks again for helping me stay positive! I learned this year just how much I actually depend on my friends, family, and various communities that I left behind. I’m very grateful for our connections here. Hope you are having a fabulous evening!

  3. Garry Maurice

    Far out this is a passionate and brilliantly executed, wonderfully written post. BigLizzy, you’re a goddamn star.

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Garry Maurice, You are so kind, my brother in writing. I love this. My heart is smiling so huge right now and thanks to you, my insides are feeling all bubbly. THANK YOU so much for stopping by and sharing your light. It’s a tremendous light that you emanate. I’m flattered that you came over to share it with me. sweetheart. Love, BigLizzy

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Love, sweetness, sister, friend. How glad I am that you’re back. I’m going to your blog and devouring every word, babe. I’m so, so, so glad to feel you again here, to draw down on the energy, to ride the wave that crosses between us. You lift me up, sis. You do. Thank you! XOXO

  4. hamletc1602

    I’m late getting back to this post Liz, but I want you to know it’s very inspiring.

    When someone sends negative energy my way, I will generally first try to let them know they are being negative. (So often, people are just repeating what they have heard/read and don’t know how hurtful it is)

    If this does not cause them to re-evaluate, and they double-down on the negative, I will do my best block or minimize their affect on my life. Then I will concentrate on doing something positive for someone else to get rid of any lingering negative energy I picked up from the interaction.

    (This is my plan, at least. I’m not always conscious enough to follow it 🙂 )

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Dearest Hamlet-LOVE! My deepest apolgies for not responding to this kind message from you, honey. Yes, yes, yes. I LOVE your ideas here for dealing with negative people and yes, sometimes people don’t realize exactly how they are being received. It’s always good to stand your ground in a compassionate way, if possible but if not, be as firm and as fierce as you need to be. Sometimes, I swear, the Universe sends these people as tests for us. Am I right? I love you, my friend. I owe you comments on your latest book, PTG. Coming soon! XOXO


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